15 Ways to Connect and Change Your World

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15 Ways to Connect and Change Your World

He was crumpled in a large brown heap, a lifeless mass of fur in the middle of the road.

My heart dropped when I realized it was a dead dog.

“I think it’s worse when it’s a dog hit versus a wild animal along the roadside,” my son commented.

“It’s because there’s a human connection. That’s why it’s so hard. It’s probably someone’s pet.” I blurted. I wasn’t sure where the words came from, but they flowed easily. I’d like to think they were God-given.

The van grew quiet.

We have human connections, too.

And sin, like the dog’s death, doesn’t fly solo. It impacts others.

But how much more God’s love soars when we build those human connections.

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Our decisions and what happens to us isn’t simply about us.

Our own sins – gossip, lies, angry outbursts, fornication, gluttony, hatred, even discord – don’t fly solo.

And sometimes their mangling impact will turn another’s world upside down.

I think of a friend – a man my husband was stationed with and we’ve known for well over 20 years. He’s a believer. He’s a police officer. And his world was turned upside down last week.

Our friend – I’ll call him “Jose” – was shot. You probably know his story. It’s Dallas.

Shots rang. Jose landed in the hospital. But, unlike 5 other officers, he survived.

I can’t imagine. What did Jose think? And his wife and children – where were their thoughts?

Sin didn’t fly solo. It took Jose and his family with it. Many others of us as well. But there’s hurt splattered all over the US – black, white, you name it. It’s not just in Jose’s world. Worlds are upside down all around.

Sin’s impact is flying high.

So what do we do with this impact, when life goes upside down?

We can lash in retaliation, sowing discord. That’s simple, isn’t it?

If I hate a man because he shot a friend, then I’m returning sin with a sin, exchanging one hate for another.

My kids see it. They cling to it in one form or another. Then hate multiplies. A lot of eternal good that does, eh?

We can sit and simply do nothing.

We’re busy.

We don’t know them.

It seemingly doesn’t impact us.

Or, we can reach out and build those human connections to help change our world.

My husband and I chose the last route. Oh, we’re not perfect. You know that well. But why fight evil with evil?

We tossed that impact into serving at The Salvation Army. My family and I met eyes with over 200 beautiful faces, housed by bodies of white, black, Native American, Asian, and more.

Our youngest son commented his biggest takeaway was being exposed to a different type of community, to different people, and a different style of living.

I like that.

All the kids loved the experience. I love that even more.

(The boys and my hubby had gone a few times before, but this was a first for my daughter and me.)

But there are many ways to handle an upside-down world. You don’t have to go to The Salvation Army. Just connect with others. And even better? Connect with those outside your daily path. Maybe, just maybe that’ll help us understand one another better.

Here are 15 avenues for connecting and changing your world:

  1. Look a person in the eye and offer, “Have a blessed day.”
  2. Smile and nod, even compliment, versus staring at a phone.
  3. Listen to listen, not respond.
  4. Pray behind the scenes or offer a prayer right then and there.
  5. Skip over to the new neighbor and introduce yourselfinvite them to dinner.
  6. Hug that widow, bring her a meal or visit regularly.
  7. Head down to the soup kitchen and serve the homeless.
  8. Volunteer at an abused women’s shelter or a nursing home.
  9. Become a foster parent or child’s mentor.
  10. Simply care about and for your neighbor, refusing hatred and discord due to skin color, political views, etc.
  11. Allow someone to care for, assist, or bless us.
  12. Offer a hug.
  13. Use manners, regardless of appearance or experience.
  14. Ask forgiveness for our own sins clutched tightly.
  15. Submit to love and forgiveness, proceeding in His righteousness.


We can offer glory to the name of Jesus by offering our own heart for reaction, not wild emotions bent for discord and retaliation.

Because sin doesn’t ride solo. Its impact is far-reaching.

But further-reaching is a heart offered to God, one connecting with humans for the sake of Jesus. Just watch His love soar!

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Be encouraged to walk in righteousness, my friend. Because in the end? Love wins.

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  1. In this season of unsettling unrest, your 4 simple words ring out loud and clear, Kristi …

    We don’t fly solo.

    What a huge takeaway this morning. Bless you, girl …

  2. Kristi- I loved your list and I will be sharing it with my kids too! We can each make a difference within our own fingertip reach. It might seem small but if we help 5 people and they help 5 people, the impact is huge!

    Thanks for this post!

  3. In many of the blog posts and tweets since the shootings last week, people talk about love, acceptance, and tolerance. You take it a step further and give us practical steps for love in ACTION. Love this! Sharing and pinning. #RaRaLinkup

    1. It does, Lisa. Evil has an ugly reach. But the reach for good? So much further. I’m banking on that one and know you are, too. Thanks for stopping by, friend.

  4. I am making a point in my heart to begin practicing #3 today. That one JUMPED off the page when I read through the list. I know deep-down that is one thing I need to work on – with my family, co-workers, everyone. I pray today God will help me be a better listener. Thank you for this today, Kristi!

  5. Thanks for these practical steps, Kristi. I think so many people feel overwhelmed. It’s good to put feet to our feelings, heals the heart that is broken over the brokenness in the world.

  6. “Sin doesn’t fly solo.” True words. Beautiful analogies. I love your emphasis that we cannot return hate for hate. Instead, we should *connect* with others. Thanks, Kristi.

  7. In a time when so many well meaning people remain silent and passive because they just don’t know what to do, you my friend have given us somewhere to start. Bless you!

  8. This is a beautiful post — so many grace-filled reminders of how we can contribute to God’s grace in this world. I am visiting you from Susie Eller’s link up. Many Blessings! xo

  9. Kristi, this is powerful. Sin’s harsh outcome hit close to home for your family, and instead of nursing your wounds, you showed Christ’s love. The biggest takeaway for me–your kids now know this is a loving response to violence. What an amazing life lesson. You taught me, too.