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Why Is Forgiveness So Hard to Offer?

April 9, 2019 by Kristi 6 Comments

Why Is Forgiveness So Hard to Offer? Pink flower behind the words.

Why is forgiveness so hard to offer?

Have you ever wondered?

Releasing situations and offering forgiveness often mimicks a puppy attempting to wriggle its way out of clutched hands. We hold tight, refusing to allow it to go.

We grasp that hurt and offense, and we cling to blame like static cling causes a dress to cling the leg mid-winter.

But why?

Does it further the Kingdom of God? Does withholding forgiveness bring glory to the Lord? And goodness, does escalating our desires drop one ounce of peace upon the heart?

No.

I’m the one who, from time to time, wrestles with the emotions that chime, “You’re justified.”

But the notion remains a lie.

My life is not my own. I was bought at a price. You were too.

And the one who paid our price offered some turn-your-world-upside-down words that will change life. We’re wise to remember those words this Easter, today, next year, and for the rest of our lives.

“Jesus said, ‘Father, forgive them, for they don’t know what they are doing.’” Luke 23:34a WEB

Father, forgive them: three simple words, remnants of Jesus’ walk on earth, ready-made syllables available for you and I to utter and offer freely.

Why Forgive?

Often, when I look further into situations, when God’s wisdom settles, I see an offender who is struggling with their own spiritual battle. I’m called to love and gather prayer.

The Bible contains truth. It assures our battles are not against flesh and blood.

We decide in that moment or in situations if the Bible truly is truth and if God really is good. Because our good God assures that forgiveness proves right.

Through Jesus’ sacrifice, He offered it to you and me.

Although man will fall prey and sin, causing pain that often sears others too, our battles roar due to darkness, not people. (Mind you, societal accountability remains. That’s not the premise here.)

The struggle to offer forgiveness sits smack in the middle of a spiritual battle. Fight accordingly.

How to Fight to Forgive

  • We fight with prayers and utterances that call on the power and strength of our victor, our God. We call on God.

That’s how we fight to forgive.

  • We refuse to take offense.

That’s also how we fight to forgive.

  • We intentionally choose prayer.

And in my case, I pray for “them” and “me.” Because God knows the filth floating around in my heart, and the sheer fact that I hiccuped with forgiveness proves plenty evidence a prayer need sits in my own heart.

We fight to forgive by praying for “them” and “us” too.

3 Ways to Fight to Forgive

Jesus Forgave

And that’s what Jesus did. He prayed.

A wronged man, one treated unjustly if ever there was a man caught in seemingly wrong circumstances, he prayed for the offending party. Because they didn’t realize what they were doing to him.

Often, due to the lense of strongholds and our own battles within, we fail to realize what we’re doing to others. And they to us.

But there’s always space for grace and opportunity to forgive–if we set aside offense, that dogged refusal to forgive, and blame.

Jesus did. He died on the cross to cover and erase the power of our sins.

Thank God he kept no record of wrongs but simply loved. Can you imagine if he wagged a finger in blame or harbored offense?

And what if he chose a path opposite forgiveness? Yikes! We’d be in trouble. There’d be no heaven for us.

But God forgave. Hope remains.

If there’s a need for forgiveness in your own life, will you thread hope by offering to forgive? Peace awaits.

If you’re not certain Jesus is your Savior, that your sins have been forgiven and you’re heavenboud, scroll to the bottom of this page–to the “Filled” portion. You’ve been forgiven, and God calls the grace abounding more than sufficient.

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Comments

  1. Lyli Dunbar says

    April 9, 2019 at 2:54 pm

    Thanks for encouraging us to fight in prayer for reconciliation in those difficult relationships. This really encouraged me today. Thankful for you!

    Reply
    • Kristi Woods says

      April 15, 2019 at 10:23 am

      Thankful for you, too, Lyli! <3 Keep "fighting", friend.

      Reply
  2. Betsy de Cruz says

    April 12, 2019 at 10:05 am

    Thanks for reminding us that forgiveness can be a fight. We have to keep praying. For them and us, as you say! Great post at Eastertime!

    Reply
    • Kristi Woods says

      April 15, 2019 at 10:24 am

      Forgiveness is a wonderful topic at Easter, isn’t it, Betsy? Thank You, Jesus!

      Reply
  3. Marissa Kuhlman says

    April 14, 2019 at 7:53 am

    I am in need of forgiveness as I hold resentment in my heart towards some following the death of one friend, then a second just over a month apart. I was at there bedside as they took their last breath, one free..the other?

    Reply
    • Kristi Woods says

      April 15, 2019 at 10:27 am

      I’m so sorry, Marissa. It’s hard to lose a friend, let alone two. I hope it’s okay if I pray with you?
      Father, heal these wounds. Ripen forgiveness in Marissa, and squelch any hardheartedness that has attempted to infiltrate. We love you and praise Your holy name, Jesus, amen.

      Reply

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