For Those Times When I Look in the Mirror and Don’t Like What I See

Don’t like what you see when you look in the mirror?

Do you need something tangible to combat those times when you look in the mirror and don’t like what you see?

“Visuals” like me will understand. When we look in the mirror, we see limp hair that never looks good, eyes too large, a crooked nose, ringlets of skin under that chin, thighs a titch too wide for the liking–or SOMETHING not right with our reflection.

Call it crazy, but we don’t like the woman staring back at us.

Sure, we can have our preferences, but what happens when nearly every time we look in the mirror, we find something wrong versus all that beams right?

I used to be the queen of that nest. Man, and what a nasty, dirty nest it was. I didn’t like myself. Critical, belittling thoughts zipped across my brain every.single.time I looked in the mirror.

Talk about self-denigrating.

The odd part is that I never even realized I had a problem until the Holy Spirit uncovered a heart issue. Oh, beautiful, wisdom-filling Holy Spirit–I love you!

Heart Issue

Yep. Call it a heart issue. Not liking ourselves often originates due to a heart issue.

But the Holy Spirit stands faithful. His wisdom coats the scene, revealing and healing, then leading us in freer pastures.

And girl, when He opens wide eyes to see, we notice things we NEVER EVER EVER realized were clinking around in that heart of ours.

I sure did.

And there’s a good chance you’ll be SUPER GLAD the Holy Spirit brings revelation, too. In fact, you might wonder why you waited so long to find this healing and freedom!

I’m working on a talk centered on this very topic. A few ladies here in Oklahoma as well as a few in Nebraska will hear it this month. My hope is that the Holy Spirit will reveal heart issues and that these ladies will find healing. Will you pray for their preparation? And will you pray for me as well, that my words will be led by the Holy Spirit and delivered with the power and annointing of His?

Fighting Words

But that doesn’t answer what tangible something or other we can use for those “I don’t like myself” glances in the mirror. If you don’t like yourself–something you see that ranks as insufficient whether it’s looks, talents, past circumstances/decisions, or more–then grab two things.

  1. Grab Prayer
  2. Grab Truth

Prayer is a powerful tool–even when we don’t see its impact. Keep praying. When we ask God to show us our heart, He does. He indicates whether we love or don’t love what we see in the mirror–and He shows just how far-reaching those words roam. (Trust me–experience speaking here.)

The Bible–truth–remains sharper than any two-edged sword. It cuts through to the intent of our heart. It leads us in paths of righteousness.

And rest assured, being hard on ourselves, belittling that beatuiful woman in the mirror, or sabatoging her by slathering critical words all over her reflection isn’t right by God. It’s a battle, friend. Remember, we don’t war against flesh and blood… (Eph. 6:12).

But God Almighty stands as victor…and as Christians, so are we. So go ahead, transfer that trust from self to God. Refuse the negative comments and watch how the Lion of Judah roars in righteousness.

Memory Verse

This week’s memory verse is spot-on for combating this battle. Grab your sword, girls! It’s a powerful one full of truth. So go ahead, grab PS 139:14 and use it well. Behind it stands the strength of the Lord Almighty.

flowers with PS 139:14 written in black lettering

So for those times when we look in the mirror and don’t like what we see, we are truly…

  • Fearfully Made
  • Wonderfully Made

And past Bible verses assure us we are also…

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  1. This verse has been “popping up” often for me. One that I love and one that I know to be true…but so often have trouble embracing for myself. Thanks again for the reminder…to know truth and to use it!

    1. You’re not alone, Crystal. So many of us need that reminder. 😉 Thanks for “sitting on the porch” with me for a bit.